A friend of mine sent me this clip from YouTube of a crazy Christian preacher saying that, and I quote, "You call yourself Mr. Mom, God calls you a bum."
I think my friend wanted me to join in her shock and anger, and although I appreciate the sentiment, honestly my first reaction was laughter. And then I kind of got bummed out because there were so many people in the congregation agreeing with him. It's just odd to me (but not surprising) that people actually think this way. And it's funny that someone would preach it.
If choosing to stay with your kids because you can afford it and you'd rather do that then send them to daycare makes me a bum, then feel free to send me a hand-out via PayPal.
Or at least click an ad.
What a weird thing for a minister to get ranty about! I guess any deviance from a '50s-style family model is a threat to this church.
Posted by: Joshua Ledwell | February 05, 2009 at 07:26 AM
The Southern-Baptist convention is very into this sort of men are wage earners, women home makers. They feel that upsetting this order leads to homosexuality and various other deviancies. Some non-denominational churches (a lot of which are offshoots of Southern-Baptist churches) believe the same thing.
When you have a literal view of the Bible, your whole religious view is a house of cards and it can take believing some extraordinary things to keep everything balanced.
It's still a crazy thing to get ranty about.
Posted by: Tim | February 05, 2009 at 08:19 AM
This is exactly why Christians get such bad reputation. This pastor is way out of line.
Posted by: Mocha Dad | February 23, 2009 at 01:19 PM
I'm a current pastor who will soon be a stay at home dad when my wife graduates medical school and starts residency at the end of the summer. I disagree with this pastor on many different issues and this is one. Don't be discouraged stay at home dads. This guy does not represent all of Christianity.
Posted by: Jared | March 11, 2009 at 02:33 PM
I am a stay at home dad and I find this pastor quite offensive! I'm NOT lazy and NEVER have been. My wife and I simply wanted one of us to stay at home with our son instead of sending him to a daycare. My wife made a little more than me so I became a stay at home dad. I DO NOT live off of my wife. This pastor is a JERK!
Posted by: Gary | April 05, 2009 at 11:45 PM
I rebuke this man. how narrow minded and sad in his ignorant arrogance. i for one have wonderful and excellent records, including a 3 qaurter honor roll middle school student this year. this as a perseverent result of 8 years of fathering. my wife needed adult "space" to graduate medical school, and i denied the infected day care centers access to my children. we also had extreme high crime and bullets flying in the neighborhood. what an idiot this preacher is!
Posted by: Mr.Vincent Leaf | May 12, 2009 at 12:22 PM
This Man is right !!!! Come on people .How many single moms out there are working and providing for their families?Alot!How did men ever come to the point of thinking this is an acceptable form of existence?By the way,the book of genesis explains mans punishment as a result of disobeying Gods orders in the garden of eden,genesis 3 17;I dont read anywhere in the bible where it was acceptable to be a stay at home dad.I cant even believe anybody would argue the point.
Read the bible and then make a decision not on what you FEEL IS RIGHT but what God says is right
Posted by: BRIAN | June 20, 2009 at 08:51 AM
I'm curious, as a single mom myself, am I likely to burn in hell, because I can change my own oil, and don't have a clue how to cook a decent pot roast? How is it, single moms and married stay at home moms, can get soooo much credit, for holding a job, or raising three children? Is it only a "real job" if a women does it? Why should the father of a son, not be the one to teach his son? What about single dads? Is there something wrong with them? Maybe we have all strayed abit from your rightious path, but that is the evolution of our people.....We do what has to be done. We don't sit around and whine about it. The American family needs several things to survive. Love, Trust, an above average income, togetherness, and some kind of faith. If all these things are present, who cares how the roles are dealt out.
Posted by: Shea | June 28, 2009 at 08:14 AM
Amen Shea.
Posted by: moderndaydad | June 29, 2009 at 11:20 AM
I tell you, that guys has obviously never spent any time raising his children, if he has any. The bible calls men to sacrifice for their families, and if we need to be home because it is the best thing for our family, then so be it.
P.S. Shea, I don't know how you do it as a single Mom, props to you, Mocha Dad, good luck, Mr. Leaf, Genesis tells us we will have to work and toil for our food. Raising children is work, and toil. We are called to sacrifice for our families as Jesus sacrificed for the church, meaning anything and everything up to dying for them.
Posted by: Adam Rogers | August 29, 2009 at 10:04 PM